[Java] Fix splitAndTransfer for variable width vector

When we splitAndTransfer a vector, the value count to set for the target vector should be equal to split length and not the value count of source vector. 

We have seen cases in operator slike FLATTEN and under low memory conditions, we end up allocating a lot more memory for the target vector because of using a large value in setValueCount after split and transfer is done.

**Reporter**: [Siddharth Teotia](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-2294) / @siddharthteotia

_{**Note**: *This issue was originally created as [ARROW-2294](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-2294). Please see the [migration documentation](https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/14542) for further details.*}

Search the Java implementation for splitAndTransfer and the variable-width vector classes, then trace how FLATTEN invokes the operation. Verify the target vector's post-transfer value count against the split length and check the relevant existing tests or add coverage for the reduced allocation case.

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