[Java] AllocationListener should be called during ownership transferring

If we transfer balance of buffer1 from allocator1 to allocator2, onRelease() should be called from allocator1.listener as well as the case that buffer1 is closed without transferring.

**Reporter**: [Hongze Zhang](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-14923) / @zhztheplayer
#### PRs and other links:
- [GitHub Pull Request apache/arrow#11800](https://github.com/apache/arrow/pull/11800)

_{**Note**: *This issue was originally created as [ARROW-14923](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-14923). Please see the [migration documentation](https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/14542) for further details.*}

檢查配置與所有權轉移的實作，然後查看 PR #11800 了解現有的工作。當 buffer1 的所有權轉移至 allocator2 時 allocator1.listener 收到 onRelease()，就算完成；在 buffer1 關閉但未轉移所有權時，目前已經會發生這種情況。

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