[Java] AllocationListener should be called during ownership transferring

If we transfer balance of buffer1 from allocator1 to allocator2, onRelease() should be called from allocator1.listener as well as the case that buffer1 is closed without transferring.

**Reporter**: [Hongze Zhang](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-14923) / @zhztheplayer
#### PRs and other links:
- [GitHub Pull Request apache/arrow#11800](https://github.com/apache/arrow/pull/11800)

_{**Note**: *This issue was originally created as [ARROW-14923](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-14923). Please see the [migration documentation](https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/14542) for further details.*}

检查分配和所有权转移的实现，然后查看 PR #11800 了解现有工作。当 buffer1 的所有权转移到 allocator2 时 allocator1.listener 接收到 onRelease()，就算完成；在 buffer1 关闭但未转移所有权时，目前已经会发生这种情况。

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