[Java] AllocationListener should be called during ownership transferring

If we transfer balance of buffer1 from allocator1 to allocator2, onRelease() should be called from allocator1.listener as well as the case that buffer1 is closed without transferring.

**Reporter**: [Hongze Zhang](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-14923) / @zhztheplayer
#### PRs and other links:
- [GitHub Pull Request apache/arrow#11800](https://github.com/apache/arrow/pull/11800)

_{**Note**: *This issue was originally created as [ARROW-14923](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-14923). Please see the [migration documentation](https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/14542) for further details.*}

Examinez l’implémentation de l’allocation et du transfert de propriété, puis inspectez PR #11800 pour voir le travail existant. C’est terminé lorsque allocator1.listener reçoit onRelease() lors du transfert de propriété de buffer1 à allocator2, comme c’est déjà le cas lorsque buffer1 est fermé sans transfert.

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