Add `.rat-excludes` file

Context: https://github.com/apache/parquet-site/pull/98#discussion_r1940028140

And remove places where exclusion is passed via command line (in this repo or parquet-site)
- https://github.com/apache/parquet-java/blob/83c2c80d49c57b1ae180df45229ee01dbceddc1e/pom.xml#L561-L589
- https://github.com/apache/parquet-site/blob/9a050c72acea32e333c23a1beb6ad14577d755a1/content/en/docs/Contribution%20Guidelines/releasing.md?plain=1#L235 (this ones in parquet-site, but its part of the release instruction for parquet-java)
- https://github.com/apache/parquet-format/blob/c6a6967f53906174567eca7d66e9abede1424723/pom.xml#L172-L194 (not related, this ones in parquet-format)

If possible, use the latest RAT version which uses regular regex syntax

Start with the linked parquet-site pull request discussion, then inspect the exclusion configuration in parquet-java's pom.xml and the release instructions in parquet-site. Add the .rat-excludes configuration, remove the command-line exclusions in the referenced locations, and assess whether the latest RAT version supports the requested regex syntax.

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