[Java] Implement vector diff functionality

In C++ side, we already have array diff functionality for vector equals and testing to make it easy to see differences between Arrays and reduce debugging time.  And it’s better to do something similar in Java side for better testing facilities.

**Reporter**: [Ji Liu](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-8019) / @tianchen92

_{**Note**: *This issue was originally created as [ARROW-8019](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-8019). Please see the [migration documentation](https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/14542) for further details.*}

首先定位现有的 C++ 数组差异功能，以及用于比较向量的 Java 测试工具。通过匹配向量相等性所暴露的差异来定义 Java 等效实现，然后添加或更新测试，以展示生成的诊断信息。

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