[Java] Implement vector diff functionality

In C++ side, we already have array diff functionality for vector equals and testing to make it easy to see differences between Arrays and reduce debugging time.  And it’s better to do something similar in Java side for better testing facilities.

**Reporter**: [Ji Liu](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-8019) / @tianchen92

_{**Note**: *This issue was originally created as [ARROW-8019](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/ARROW-8019). Please see the [migration documentation](https://github.com/apache/arrow/issues/14542) for further details.*}

Comienza localizando la funcionalidad existente de diferencias de arrays en C++ y las utilidades de pruebas de Java que comparan vectores. Define el equivalente en Java haciendo coincidir las diferencias expuestas para la igualdad de vectores y, después, añade o actualiza pruebas que demuestren los diagnósticos resultantes.

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