mat-select - Allow mat-option selected property to be settable

#### Bug, feature request, or proposal:
Feature request

#### What is the expected behavior?
To be able to set the mat-option selected property

#### What is the current behavior?
Currently the mat-option selected property is readonly and you have to programatically select options.

#### What is the use-case or motivation for changing an existing behavior?
Being able to bind to the selected property would be a cleaner implementation for a user versus having to do it manually, especially in cases where using cascading mat-select with multiple=true (harder to manage)

#### Which versions of Angular, Material, OS, TypeScript, browsers are affected?
Angular 4.4.3
Material 2.0.0-beta.11
Windows 10
TypeScript - 2.5.2
All browsers

Start by reading the mat-select and mat-option implementation to understand how the readonly selected property is currently managed. Confirm the intended binding behavior for mat-option, including cascading mat-select cases with multiple=true. Done means selected can be set or bound as requested without breaking existing selection behavior.

Written by the indexing model from the issue text.