[Java] Force an outage of the client,server stuck in an endless loop

### Describe the usage question you have. Please include as many useful details as possible.

```
try (BufferAllocator allocator = new RootAllocator()) {
// Server
try (final CookbookProducer producer = new CookbookProducer(allocator, location);
final FlightServer flightServer = FlightServer.builder(allocator, location, producer).build()) {
try {
flightServer.start();
System.out.println("S1: Server (Location): Listening on port " + flightServer.getPort());
} catch (IOException e) {
throw new RuntimeException(e);
}
}
}
```

And I handle mysql resultset like this:
```
ResultSet resultSet = statement.executeQuery();
ArrowVectorIterator iterator = JdbcToArrow.sqlToArrowVectorIterator(
resultSet, config)
```

```
public void handleArrowIterator(ArrowVectorIterator iterator, BufferAllocator allocator) {
int index = 0;

while (iterator.hasNext() && !listener.isCancelled()) {
if (listener.isReady()) {
try (VectorSchemaRoot root = iterator.next()) {
index++;
VectorUnloader unloader = new VectorUnloader(root);

ArrowRecordBatch arb = unloader.getRecordBatch();

loader.load(arb);
listener.putNext();
}

}

}
listener.completed();
}
```

But when I force an outage of the client,listener.isCancelled() and listener.isReady() always false,The server is stuck in an endless loop.How to reslove it?
Server exception message:
```
io.grpc.netty.NettyServerHandler -Stream Error
io.netty.handler.codec.http2.Http2Exception$StreamException: Stream closed before write could take place
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.Http2Exception.streamError(Http2Exception.java:172)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.DefaultHttp2RemoteFlowController$FlowState.cancel(DefaultHttp2RemoteFlowController.java:481)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.DefaultHttp2RemoteFlowController$1.onStreamClosed(DefaultHttp2RemoteFlowController.java:105)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.DefaultHttp2Connection.notifyClosed(DefaultHttp2Connection.java:357)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.DefaultHttp2Connection$ActiveStreams.removeFromActiveStreams(DefaultHttp2Connection.java:1007)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.DefaultHttp2Connection$ActiveStreams.deactivate(DefaultHttp2Connection.java:963)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.DefaultHttp2Connection$DefaultStream.close(DefaultHttp2Connection.java:515)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.DefaultHttp2Connection.close(DefaultHttp2Connection.java:153)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.Http2ConnectionHandler$BaseDecoder.channelInactive(Http2ConnectionHandler.java:209)
at io.netty.handler.codec.http2.Http2ConnectionHandler.channelInactive(Http2ConnectionHandler.java:417)
at io.grpc.netty.NettyServerHandler.channelInactive(NettyServerHandler.java:628)
at io.netty.channel.AbstractChannelHandlerContext.invokeChannelInactive(AbstractChannelHandlerContext.java:262)
at io.netty.channel.AbstractChannelHandlerContext.invokeChannelInactive(AbstractChannelHandlerContext.java:248)
at io.netty.channel.AbstractChannelHandlerContext.fireChannelInactive(AbstractChannelHandlerContext.java:241)
at io.netty.channel.DefaultChannelPipeline$HeadContext.channelInactive(DefaultChannelPipeline.java:1405)
at io.netty.channel.AbstractChannelHandlerContext.invokeChannelInactive(AbstractChannelHandlerContext.java:262)
at io.netty.channel.AbstractChannelHandlerContext.invokeChannelInactive(AbstractChannelHandlerContext.java:248)
at io.netty.channel.DefaultChannelPipeline.fireChannelInactive(DefaultChannelPipeline.java:901)
at io.netty.channel.AbstractChannel$AbstractUnsafe$7.run(AbstractChannel.java:813)
at io.netty.util.concurrent.AbstractEventExecutor.safeExecute$$$capture(AbstractEventExecutor.java:164)
at io.netty.util.concurrent.AbstractEventExecutor.safeExecute(AbstractEventExecutor.java)
at io.netty.util.concurrent.SingleThreadEventExecutor.runAllTasks(SingleThreadEventExecutor.java:469)
at io.netty.channel.nio.NioEventLoop.run(NioE
```

### Component(s)

FlightRPC

まず handleArrowIterator ループと listener.isCancelled() および listener.isReady() のチェックから始め、その後 FlightRPC サーバーに対するクライアント停止を再現します。stream-closed 例外がこれらの listener の状態にどのような影響を与えるかを追跡します。完了条件は、サーバーがループを停止し、閉じられたクライアントストリームを処理して、停止したままにならないことです。

索引モデルが issue の本文から書いたものです。