Support inserting row/column defs at specific indices rather than always appending

#### What are you trying to do?

I'm trying to make table with 2 sticky header rows. First row should contain toolbar with table actions, but definition of this row is in separated file, it is passed through `cdkTable.addHeaderRowDef` . Second row should contain descriptions of columns.

#### What troubleshooting steps have you tried?

I tried to manually position `headerRowDefinition` inside `_headerRowDefs` property, but I'm unable to do that due to:
https://github.com/angular/components/blob/d3deb8b9c61f79f6a4ab75d74914aac3b43592bf/src/cdk/table/table.ts#L895
contentHeaderRowDefinitions specified explicit as content are always before customHeaderRowDefinitions added via `addHeaderRowDef`.

I tried to handle stickness by styling headers `postion: sticky` and calculate top positioning, but I'm unable to do that due to: https://github.com/angular/components/blob/d3deb8b9c61f79f6a4ab75d74914aac3b43592bf/src/cdk/table/table.ts#L731
All header rows have cleared top positioning value that I set via styling.

#### Reproduction
https://stackblitz.com/edit/angular-bkarpk?file=src/app/table/table.component.html

#### Environment

- Angular: 11.1.1
- CDK/Material: 11.1.1
- Browser(s): Chrome/Firefox
- Operating System (e.g. Windows, macOS, Ubuntu): Windows

Inizia dalle sezioni collegate di src/cdk/table/table.ts ed esegui la riproduzione StackBlitz fornita. Traccia come vengono ordinati i contenuti e le definizioni personalizzate delle righe di intestazione e come viene cancellato il posizionamento sticky dell’intestazione. Il lavoro è completato quando le definizioni delle intestazioni possono apparire all’indice richiesto e le due righe di intestazione sticky mantengono il posizionamento corretto.

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