make marshal output not dependent on reference count

Bug report

Currently the marshal module will emit a previously-unseen object flagged as a potential reference from later objects, unless the object has a reference count of 1. See https://github.com/python/cpython/blob/b27b57c6e44a276c8a9843fd37d4cf65b2827d5c/Python/marshal.c#L305

This is an overly-conservative heuristic -- it's easy to construct cases where an object has a reference count >1 but is not actually referenced by any other object about to be marshaled, so FLAG_REF is set when it does not need to be.

This makes marshal output unstable depending on accidents of reference counting behavior in the code calling marshal.dumps.

I ran into this because the Cinder JIT is able to reduce unnecessary increfs, and that resulted in some importlib tests failing on comparison of marshal output at https://github.com/python/cpython/blob/b27b57c6e44a276c8a9843fd37d4cf65b2827d5c/Lib/test/test_importlib/test_abc.py#L870-L871 because under Cinder JIT the reference count of code_object in that method is 1.

This previously caused issues in distutils reproducibility, resulting in a partial fix that applies only to interned strings: https://github.com/python/cpython/pull/8226

It would be better if marshal would actually determine which objects have multiple parents in the DAG and deterministically use FLAG_REF or not based on that.

从 Python/marshal.c 中提到的引用计数启发式开始，检查 Lib/test/test_importlib/test_abc.py 第 870-871 行中受影响的断言。跟踪 marshal.dumps 如何决定 FLAG_REF，然后编写测试以证明输出与调用方的引用计数无关，并确认 importlib 测试通过。