Highlight bad Epochs instead of dropping them when preload=False upon plotting

Describe the new feature or enhancement

Hello! I am currently working on a feature to drop Epoch based on callables in #12195, and thought it would be a nice feature to be able to see which Epochs would be dropped (since you may have complicated callables) if preload=False in the Epochs constructor.

Describe your proposed implementation

I think this could be implemented by displaying the rejected epochs instead of dropping them when plotting. For instance:

epochs = mne.Epochs(
    raw,
    events,
    tmin=-0.2,
    tmax=0.5,
    reject_tmax=0,
    reject=reject_criteria,
    flat=flat_criteria,
    reject_by_annotation=False,
    preload=False
)
epochs.plot()

Hypothetical output (Epochs in red will be dropped):

Describe possible alternatives

Maybe instead of this method. I can add another parameter, but I think this is too complicated.

Additional context

No response

Start at the Epochs constructor and its plot entry point, then trace how reject and flat criteria are handled when preload=False. Done means plotting identifies the epochs that would be dropped instead of silently omitting them, while preserving the proposed example's behavior.