[java-spanner] DatabaseClient write transactions timeout error after running job for a few hours

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#### Environment details

1. Specify the API at the beginning of the title. For example, "BigQuery: ...").
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2. OS type and version: GCP kubernetes cluster
3. Java version: 17
4. version(s): 6.65.0

#### Steps to reproduce

When we upgrade spanner library from 6.57.0 to 6.65.0, the jobs start to have spanner write timeout error after running for 6 to 18 hours. This happens usually on massive writes with high writes-per-second (e.g., hundreds of writes per seconds). We don't know if this has anything to do with session leaks or not, but 1) We already enabled setWarnAndCloseIfInactiveTransactions on SessionPool options. 2) We don't see this problem on 6.57.0. Our guess is some code between 6.58.0 to 6.65.0 causing the issue.

#### Code example

For instance, the following code will trigger it

spannerClient
.readWriteTransaction(Options.tag("method=writeToTable"))
.run(
transaction -> {
transaction.buffer(
toInsertOrUpdateMutation(
deviceId,
uploadId,
orgId,
mergedMeasure,
measureQueryTimestamp,
/* dedupBucketSizeSeconds= / null,
/ randomNumber= */ null));
return null;
});

#### Stack trace

We have tried multiple versions: This stack trace could be from 6.72, 6.69, 6.66 or 6.65

com.google.cloud.spanner.SpannerException: DEADLINE_EXCEEDED: io.grpc.StatusRuntimeException: DEADLINE_EXCEEDED: CallOptions deadline exceeded after 29.999968223s. Name resolution delay 0.000000000 seconds. [closed=[], open=[[buffered_nanos=30000285535, waiting_for_connection]]]
at com.google.cloud.spanner.SpannerExceptionFactory.newSpannerExceptionPreformatted(SpannerExceptionFactory.java:291)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.SpannerExceptionFactory.newSpannerExceptionPreformatted(SpannerExceptionFactory.java:297)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.SpannerExceptionFactory.newSpannerException(SpannerExceptionFactory.java:170)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.SpannerExceptionFactory.newSpannerException(SpannerExceptionFactory.java:110)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.TransactionRunnerImpl$TransactionContextImpl.commit(TransactionRunnerImpl.java:327)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.TransactionRunnerImpl.lambda$runInternal$0(TransactionRunnerImpl.java:1167)
at com.google.api.gax.retrying.DirectRetryingExecutor.submit(DirectRetryingExecutor.java:102)
at com.google.cloud.RetryHelper.run(RetryHelper.java:76)
at com.google.cloud.RetryHelper.runWithRetries(RetryHelper.java:50)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.SpannerRetryHelper.runTxWithRetriesOnAborted(SpannerRetryHelper.java:79)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.SpannerRetryHelper.runTxWithRetriesOnAborted(SpannerRetryHelper.java:68)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.TransactionRunnerImpl.runInternal(TransactionRunnerImpl.java:1183)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.TransactionRunnerImpl.run(TransactionRunnerImpl.java:1096)
at com.google.cloud.spanner.SessionPool$SessionPoolTransactionRunner.run(SessionPool.java:1002)
...

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