`UnionListReader.setPosition` throws IOOBE on a post-IPC empty List

### Describe the bug, including details regarding any error messages, version, and platform.

On 19.0.0 (and on master), calling `setPosition` on a `ListVector` that came off the wire via IPC with `valueCount == 0` throws `IndexOutOfBoundsException`.

Some callers may hit this without touching `setPosition` themselves as
- `SingleStructReaderImpl.reader(String)` calls `setPosition(idx())` the first time a child reader on a struct is looked up.
- `UnionMapReader` inherits from `UnionListReader` and breaks the same way.
- `UnionLargeListReader` has a related variant; capacity guard seems to be missing and it fails whenever the offset buffer is shorter than `(idx + 2) * 8` bytes.

The reader code hasn't changed. `ListVector.setReaderAndWriterIndex` changes and now correctly emits the leading `[0]` offset when `valueCount == 0` (as per the Arrow spec), so the receiver's offset buffer is no longer "zero-capacity" and if block `capacity() == 0` never enters.

### Repro

The shape we actually hit — a struct with a list-typed child, struct itself having `valueCount == 0`:

```java
StructVector parent = ...; // child "l" is LIST, valueCount == 0
parent.getReader().reader("l"); // IOOBE
```

Start with UnionListReader.setPosition and trace the calls from SingleStructReaderImpl.reader(String); compare the related UnionMapReader and UnionLargeListReader paths described in the issue. Reproduce the empty post-IPC list case, then verify that these readers no longer throw IndexOutOfBoundsException when offsets or capacity are empty or shorter than expected.

Written by the indexing model from the issue text.