Allow queries to take optional filter function

Describe the feature you'd like:

A common pattern that I've been using is:

const element = getByText(...);
expect(element).toBeVisible();

However, it may be the case that there are invisible elements that match the first selector, leading to a thrown error since multiple elements were found. It would be much nicer to be able to write something like:

const element = getByText(..., {filter: isVisible}); // It would also be nice for jest-dom to export `isVisible`

Describe alternatives you've considered:

If theisVisible use-case is by far the most common, then it could be sufficient to export queryVisibleBy* methods directly.

The issue names the getByText query, an optional filter function, and the possible isVisible export from jest-dom, but it names no implementation files or tests. Start by tracing the query API and existing visibility behavior; done should include an agreed filter design and resolve whether visibility helpers or queryVisibleBy* methods are part of the feature.