Custom plugins with required options break CLI parsing when using pytest.main()

• a detailed description of the bug or problem you are having
  When running pytest via pytest.main(), plugins which add a required options no longer parse their options correctly. This doesn't happen when using pytest script as the runner

• output of pip list from the virtual environment you are using

  Package        Version
  -------------- -------
  attrs          23.1.0
  exceptiongroup 1.1.2
  iniconfig      2.0.0
  packaging      23.1
  pip            21.2.4
  pluggy         1.2.0
  py             1.11.0
  pytest         7.4.0
  setuptools     58.1.0
  toml           0.10.2
  tomli          2.0.1
  

• pytest and operating system versions
  Python 3.9.9, Ubuntu 22.04, pytest 7.4.0, but I've been able to reproduce it all the way back to 5.4.3

• minimal example if possible
  runner.py, broken:

  import sys
  import pytest
  
  class Plugin:
      def pytest_addoption(self, parser, pluginmanager):
          parser.addoption("--param", required=True)
  
  
  def main():
      sys.exit(pytest.main(plugins=[Plugin()]))
  
  
  if __name__ == "__main__":
      main()
  

  $ python runner.py --param foo
  ERROR: usage: runner.py [options] [file_or_dir] [file_or_dir] [...]
  runner.py: error: the following arguments are required: --param (via addopts config)
  

  conftest.py, works:

  import pytest
  
  def pytest_addoption(self, parser, pluginmanager):
      parser.addoption("--param", required=True)
  

  $ pytest 
  ============================================================================================================================= test session starts ==============================================================================================================================
  platform linux -- Python 3.9.9, pytest-5.4.3, py-1.11.0, pluggy-0.13.1
  rootdir: /tmp/bugreport
  collected 0 items                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
  
  ============================================================================================================================ no tests ran in 0.01s =============================================================================================================================
  

Start by reproducing the issue with the provided runner.py example and compare it with the working conftest.py setup. Trace how pytest.main() handles the required --param option and add a regression test showing that the option is parsed correctly; done means the runner.py invocation no longer reports --param as missing.