Hook for better control over copy behavior with duck-arrays?

Context

By using copy(deep=False) custom operations may avoid copying large amounts of data but can modify, e.g., coord dicts:

tmp = da.copy(deep=False)
del tmp.coords['abc']
# Use tmp

When da wraps a duck-array with substructure the current implementation is insufficient:

tmp = da.copy(deep=False)
# Imagine a duck-array similar to numpy.ma but with a dict of masks
del tmp.data.masks['abc']  # Bad: breaks `da`
# Use tmp

Describe the solution you'd like

Currently there does not appear a solution to this, unless we know details about the duck array. Therefore, I wonder if we need an additional "hook" that duck-arrays may provide, which could be called by Xarray to make a non-deep copy?

class MyDuckArray:
  def _copy_shallow_(self):  # TODO: better name
    """Copy everything except buffers"""

# in xarray.Variable
def copy(self, deep=True):
  if deep:
    data = copy.deepcopy(data)
  elif hasattr(data, '_copy_shallow_'):
   data = data._copy_shallow_()

Additional context

This is the current implementation for Variable. There is no operation for deep=False:
https://github.com/pydata/xarray/blob/716973e41060184beebd64935afe196a805ef481/xarray/core/variable.py#L956-L957

Start in xarray/core/variable.py around lines 956-957 and inspect how Variable.copy handles deep=False for duck-array data. Review related copy behavior and determine the API requirements for a shallow-copy hook; done means the hook design and its behavior for nested duck-array state are agreed and covered by tests.