Generalize messaging Create-span configuration

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#19485 adds an AWS SDK option for per-message Create spans on SQS batch sends. The messaging semantic conventions recommend this opt-out for batch-oriented APIs, but a one-off setting can lead to inconsistent behavior across messaging instrumentations.

Describe the solution you'd like

Add the common flat property otel.instrumentation.common.messaging.experimental.message-create-spans.enabled and declarative path java.common.messaging.message_create_spans/development.enabled for per-message Create spans.

Allow instrumentation-specific overrides using otel.instrumentation.<name>.experimental.message-create-spans.enabled and java.<name>.message_create_spans/development.enabled. The specific value should take precedence over the common value, which should take precedence over the default. #19485 establishes the AWS SDK override as otel.instrumentation.aws-sdk.experimental.message-create-spans.enabled and java.aws_sdk.message_create_spans/development.enabled.

Apply this behavior consistently to instrumented APIs that send multiple messages in one operation, including RocketMQ where applicable. Cover system properties, declarative configuration, library builders, and metadata.

Describe alternatives you've considered

Keep only the AWS SDK setting. This avoids shared configuration now but allows batch producer instrumentation to drift.

Additional context

Follow-up to #19485 and #19415. The semantic conventions recommend both per-message Create spans and a configuration option to disable them for batch-oriented APIs: https://opentelemetry.io/docs/specs/semconv/messaging/messaging-spans/#producer-spans

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