[cross-cutting] Unify cache-control flags (--rebuild / --use-cache / --cache-dir) across build, perf, eval

Summary

Commands that build a model from HF (build, perf, eval, and future model-loaders like run/serve) all flow through WinMLAutoModel.from_pretrained / from_onnx, which share the same cache kwargs:

cache_dir: str | Path | None = None
use_cache: bool = True
force_rebuild: bool = False

But each command exposes (or hides) these inconsistently — different flag names, different defaults, and eval exposes nothing. We should unify them behind a shared decorator in utils/cli.py (the same pattern already used for build_pipeline_extra_kwargs() and overwrite_option()).

Current state

Problems

1. Opposite spelling for the same concept — build --no-use-cache vs perf --ignore-cache both set use_cache=False.
2. Opposite defaults — build defaults to no-cache; perf/eval default to cache-on. Same library, different command behavior.
3. eval has no cache control at all — a stale cached model is silently reused with no --rebuild to force a fresh build, and no opt-out.
4. --cache-dir is never exposed — users can't relocate or pin the cache from the CLI even though the library supports it.
5. --rebuild (force_rebuild) is on build/perf but not eval.

Proposal

Add a shared cache-flags decorator (e.g. cache_options()) + a mapping helper (e.g. cache_extra_kwargs()) in utils/cli.py, analogous to build_pipeline_extra_kwargs(), and wire it into build, perf, eval so they share:

• --rebuild/--no-rebuild -> force_rebuild
• a single consistent cache opt-out spelling (pick one: --cache/--no-cache or --use-cache/--no-use-cache) -> use_cache
• --cache-dir PATH -> cache_dir

…with one consistent default across commands.

Open questions (need a decision)

• Default: cache on (perf/eval today, matches library) or off (build today)? Leaning cache-on for consistency with the library, but build's -o mode deliberately bypasses cache — need to preserve that (--cache/-o mutual exclusion, or -o implies --no-cache).
• Canonical opt-out spelling: --no-cache vs --no-use-cache vs keep --ignore-cache. Recommend --cache/--no-cache (shortest, clearest).
• Back-compat: keep perf --ignore-cache and build --use-cache as hidden deprecated aliases during a transition.
• Scope: include run/serve now or follow up?

Out of scope

This is the cache-control axis only. It is orthogonal to --overwrite/--no-overwrite (#970, which guards one-shot output files like the eval/perf JSON report — a different artifact from the model cache). The two never refer to the same thing, so --rebuild (cache) and --overwrite (output) correctly coexist (e.g. in perf).

Related: #561, #970