[Build] Compilation error when building Onnxrt 1.20.1 with flag onnxruntime_CUDA_MINIMAL=ON with TRT 10.7.23 and Cudnn 9.6.0.74,

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Since Jan 27, 2025.

### Describe the issue

wanted to try flag --cmake_extra_defines onnxruntime_CUDA_MINIMAL=ON on ONNXRT 1.20.1 after https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/pull/22751
with latest TRT 10 and cudnn 9 and got compilation error with gcc11

### Urgency

my goal is to
1) minimize ONRT + TRT EP footprint : see issue https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/issues/22960#issuecomment-2513586999 (medium)
2) upgrade from ORT 1.18.0 to ORT latest and TR10 to fix https://github.com/microsoft/onnxruntime/issues/17434 (High)

### Target platform

Linux (SLES15 SP6)

### Build script

CC=gcc-11 CXX=g++-11 ./build.sh \
--skip_submodule_sync --nvcc_threads 2 \
--config $ORT_BUILD_MODE --use_cuda \
--cudnn_home /usr/local/cuda/lib64 \
--cuda_home /usr/local/cuda/ \
--use_tensorrt --tensorrt_home /usr/local/TensorRT \
--build_shared_lib --parallel --skip_tests \
--allow_running_as_root \
--cmake_extra_defines "CMAKE_CUDA_ARCHITECTURES=89" \
--cmake_extra_defines onnxruntime_CUDA_MINIMAL=ON \
--cmake_extra_defines "CMAKE_CUDA_HOST_COMPILER=/usr/bin/gcc-11"

### Error / output

[ 46%] Building CXX object CMakeFiles/onnxruntime_providers_cuda.dir/tmp/onnxruntime/onnxruntime/core/providers/cuda/cudnn_common.cc.o
In file included from /tmp/onnxruntime/onnxruntime/core/providers/cuda/cudnn_common.h:12,
from /tmp/onnxruntime/onnxruntime/core/providers/cuda/cudnn_common.cc:9:
/tmp/onnxruntime/onnxruntime/core/providers/cuda/shared_inc/cudnn_fe_call.h:9:10: fatal error: cudnn_frontend.h: No such file or directory
9 | #include
| ^~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

### Visual Studio Version

_No response_

### GCC / Compiler Version

gcc11