[Tech Request]: optimize swap rule in join order

### Is there an existing issue for the same tech request?

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### What would you like to be added ?

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在join order算法的交换律中，不仅需要考虑左右两边的行数，还需要考虑左右两边的行宽。
距离来说，如果a join b， a 100万行， b 50万行。 以前会将b放在build端。
但是如果b表中有很宽的列，导致b放在build端会占用更大的内存，cache命中率更低，则应该放在probe端。

这个优化完成后，对https://github.com/matrixorigin/MO-Cloud/issues/2229 会有帮助
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