request: depends-on filter should be applied to include-dependencies

### Is there an existing feature request for this?

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### Command

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### Description

It would be useful to have some way of specifying the order of filtering, e.g. that `depends-on` filtering should be applied to packages after `include-dependencies` is processed.

Currently, if I run something like this:

```sh
melos exec --concurrency=1 --fail-fast --scope="$(PACKAGE)" --include-dependencies --order-dependents --depends-on="build_runner" -- "make build"
```

It will exec command **either** on dependency of the scoped package **or** if the scoped package depends on `build_runner`.

### Reasoning

We use `depends-on` to apply the command only to the subset of packages that depend on `build_runner` to generate the code, and it should be generated for all the dependencies as well, but only those that depend on `build_runner`.

### Additional context and comments

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Start from the `melos exec` command and its `--include-dependencies` and `--depends-on` options. Trace how package filtering and dependency ordering are applied, then verify that `depends-on` limits the packages selected after dependencies are included while preserving the requested ordering.

Written by the indexing model from the issue text.