SD3.5-Large DreamBooth Training - Over 80GB VRAM Usage

### Describe the bug

⚠️ We are running out of memory on step 0

❕It does work without '--train_text_encoder'. It seems that there might be a memory leak or issue with training the text encoder with the current script / model.
❓Does it make sense that the model uses over 80GB of VRAM?
❓Do you have any recommendations on decreasing VRAM usage
Other than:
. 8bit Adam
. Mixed precision 16fp
. xformers (that doesn't work with SD3.5)

💡Idea:
After successfully training with the _Kohya-ss_ scripts: [Relevant Repo](https://github.com/kohya-ss/sd-scripts/tree/sd3),
I have deducted that the issue might be with the _Dreambooth_ scripts here not using 8bitAdam properly; either ignoring or a bug might be in the implementation itself. This is due to the fact that the only single parameter that had a massive effect on VRAM and caused a massive surge is not using Adam8Bit optimizer, otherwise the seemingly same parameters in _Kohya-ss_.

### Kohya-ss Parameters for reference 📝
```
# Models

pretrained_model_name_or_path = "/kohya_ss/models/sd3.5_large.safetensors"

# Captioning

cache_latents = true
caption_dropout_every_n_epochs = 0
caption_dropout_rate = 0
caption_extension = ".txt"
clip_skip = 1
keep_tokens = 0

# Text Encoder Training

use_t5xxl_cache_only = true
t5xxl_dtype = "fp16"
train_text_encoder = true

# Learning Rates

learning_rate = 5e-6
learning_rate_te1 = 1e-5
learning_rate_te2 = 1e-5
loss_type = "l2"
lr_scheduler = "cosine"
lr_scheduler_args = []
lr_scheduler_num_cycles = 1
lr_scheduler_power = 0.5
lr_warmup_steps = 0
optimizer_type = "AdamW8bit"

# Batch Sizes

text_encoder_batch_size = 1
train_batch_size = 1
epoch = 1
persistent_data_loader_workers = 0
max_data_loader_n_workers = 0

# Buckets, Noise & SNR

max_bucket_reso = 2048
min_bucket_reso = 256
bucket_no_upscale = true
bucket_reso_steps = 64
huber_c = 0.1
huber_schedule = "snr"
min_snr_gamma = 5
prior_loss_weight = 1
max_timestep = 1000
multires_noise_discount = 0.3
multires_noise_iterations = 0
noise_offset = 0
noise_offset_type = "Original"
adaptive_noise_scale = 0

# SD3 Logits

mode_scale = 1.29
weighting_scheme = "logit_normal"
logit_mean = 0
logit_std = 1

# VRAM Optimization

resolution = "512,512"
max_token_length = 75
max_train_steps = 800
mem_eff_attn = true
mixed_precision = "fp16"
full_fp16 = true
gradient_accumulation_steps = 1
gradient_checkpointing = true
xformers = true
dynamo_backend = "no"

# Sampling

sample_every_n_epochs = 50
sample_sampler = "euler"

# Model Saving

save_every_n_steps = 200
save_model_as = "diffusers"
save_precision = "fp16"

# General

output_name = "last"
log_with = "tensorboard"
```

### Reproduction

We are running the following command in _Jupyter Notebook_:
```
!accelerate launch train_dreambooth_sd3.py
--pretrained_model_name_or_path="stabilityai/stable-diffusion-3.5-large"
--output_dir="sd_outputs"
--instance_data_dir="ogo"
--instance_prompt="the face of ogo person"
--resolution=512
--train_batch_size=1
--gradient_accumulation_steps=2
--gradient_checkpointing
--checkpointing_steps=200
--learning_rate=2e-6
--text_encoder_lr=1e-6
--train_text_encoder
--lr_scheduler="constant"
--lr_warmup_steps=0
--max_train_steps=800
--seed="0"
--use_8bit_adam
--mixed_precision="fp16"
```

### Logs

```shell
2024-12-02 12:36:35.615846: E external/local_xla/xla/stream_executor/cuda/cuda_fft.cc:477] Unable to register cuFFT factory: Attempting to register factory for plugin cuFFT when one has already been registered
WARNING: All log messages before absl::InitializeLog() is called are written to STDERR
E0000 00:00:1733142995.629356 226993 cuda_dnn.cc:8310] Unable to register cuDNN factory: Attempting to register factory for plugin cuDNN when one has already been registered
E0000 00:00:1733142995.633681 226993 cuda_blas.cc:1418] Unable to register cuBLAS factory: Attempting to register factory for plugin cuBLAS when one has already been registered
12/02/2024 12:36:39 - INFO - main - Distributed environment: DistributedType.NO
Num processes: 1
Process index: 0
Local process index: 0
Device: cuda

Mixed precision type: no

You set add_prefix_space. The tokenizer needs to be converted from the slow tokenizers
You are using a model of type clip_text_model to instantiate a model of type . This is not supported for all configurations of models and can yield errors.
You are using a model of type clip_text_model to instantiate a model of type . This is not supported for all configurations of models and can yield errors.
You are using a model of type t5 to instantiate a model of type . This is not supported for all configurations of models and can yield errors.
{'base_shift', 'max_image_seq_len', 'max_shift', 'base_image_seq_len', 'invert_sigmas', 'use_dynamic_shifting'} was not found in config. Values will be initialized to default values.
Downloading shards: 100%|███████████████████████| 2/2 [00:00<00:00, 3450.68it/s]
Loading checkpoint shards: 100%|██████████████████| 2/2 [00:03<00:00, 1.73s/it]
Fetching 2 files: 100%|█████████████████████████| 2/2 [00:00<00:00, 7476.48it/s]
{'dual_attention_layers'} was not found in config. Values will be initialized to default values.
12/02/2024 12:37:04 - INFO - main - ***** Running training *****
12/02/2024 12:37:04 - INFO - main - Num examples = 1
12/02/2024 12:37:04 - INFO - main - Num batches each epoch = 1
12/02/2024 12:37:04 - INFO - main - Num Epochs = 800
12/02/2024 12:37:04 - INFO - main - Instantaneous batch size per device = 1
12/02/2024 12:37:04 - INFO - main - Total train batch size (w. parallel, distributed & accumulation) = 2
12/02/2024 12:37:04 - INFO - main - Gradient Accumulation steps = 2
12/02/2024 12:37:04 - INFO - main - Total optimization steps = 800
Steps: 0%| | 0/800 [00:00=13.7.1
safetensors==0.4.4
schedulefree==1.2.7
scipy==1.11.4
# for T5XXL tokenizer (SD3/FLUX)
sentencepiece==0.2.0
timm==0.6.12
tk==0.1.0
toml==0.10.2
transformers==4.44.2
voluptuous==0.13.1
wandb==0.18.0
```

### Who can help?

_No response_