memberlist fails in large-scale clusters

We recently implemented a large scale improved gossip protocol based on memberlist. memberlist did not meet our expectations when the number of nodes reached 1000. After investigation, it is found that the broadcast mechanism takes data from the system broadcast queue first(function `getBraodcasts` in broadcast.go). If the number of nodes is too large, the UDP packet does not have enough space to store the data in the user-defined broadcast queue, which leads to our failure to achieve system consistency.

Start in broadcast.go at getBraodcasts and trace how system and user-defined broadcast queues are selected when UDP packet space is limited. Reproduce the behavior with a cluster near 1000 nodes and inspect how the broadcast path handles packet capacity. Done means the large-cluster broadcast mechanism no longer prevents system consistency.

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