problem coordinating page behavior involving connect

I have a react component which expects to find 2 parameters in the URL (database name, doc id). It expects to open the name database, set up a sync with a remote endpoint, and load the document with the provided doc id. I expect in most cases the document will not exist yet locally, only after sync has been established.

In the past, this "just worked'. Maybe that was always an accident, but I suspect that something in the connect call previously blocked in a way that it no longer does.

Let me illustrate the one pattern that does work:

```
export function Document() {
const { name, docID } = useParams()
const { database} = useFireproof(name)
const [docContent, setDocContent] = useState('');

const [actuallyReady, setActuallyReady] = useState(false);

const cx = connect(database, '', 'https://' + window.location.hostname);
cx.loaded.then(value => {
window.setTimeout(args => {
setActuallyReady(true);
console.log("connected", cx);
}, 5000)
})

useEffect(() => {
const fetchItem = async () => {
const doc = (await database.get(docID!)) as DatabaseDoc
setDocContent(JSON.stringify(doc, null, 4))
}
fetchItem()
}, [docID, database, actuallyReady])

...
```

Note, that in this case, I wait for `cx.loaded` to resolve, and then I wait an additional 5s. When I do this, and wait the full 5s, although I get errors in the console, the doc eventually loads correctly.

Errors I see in the console:

```
Uncaught (in promise) Error: Not found: 0193458d-2f46-770b-bf57-52d78473caef - {"module":"CRDT"}
g utils.ts:323
t database.ts:90
promise callback*get database.ts:89
yw Document.tsx:30
yw Document.tsx:33
React 3
_ scheduler.production.min.js:13
T scheduler.production.min.js:14
7756 scheduler.production.min.js:14
Webpack 12
utils.ts:323:7
Uncaught (in promise) TypeError: e is null
s store.ts:166
updateParentsFromDbMetas store.ts:166
load store.ts:189
loaded connection-base.ts:68
promise callback*connectMeta_X connection-base.ts:67
connect_X connection-base.ts:48
gw index.ts:48
once resolve-once.ts:113
gw index.ts:45
yw Document.tsx:19
React 6
_ scheduler.production.min.js:13
T scheduler.production.min.js:14
7756 scheduler.production.min.js:14
Webpack 12
store.ts:166:62
```

Without the sleep I see the same errors, but never get the content loaded. I have tried useDocument, and different variations of waiting for `cx.loaded`, all to no avail.

How can I do this correctly, without getting any errors in the console, and without having to wait 5s?

Reproduce the React flow in Document.tsx and start by tracing connect through connection-base.ts, store.ts, database.ts, and utils.ts. Compare the timing of cx.loaded with database.get for a document that arrives through sync. Done means the document loads reliably without a fixed sleep and without the reported console errors.

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