change update mechanism to ping device first.

**Describe the problem you have/What new integration you would like**
Please change the update mechanism
-First check if an ESPHome device is offline before bothering compiling and updating.

**Please describe your use case for this integration and alternatives you've tried:**
-Devices that are offline (especially during "update all") get compiled which take up precious time

**Additional context**

none

No file, test, or entry point is named. Start by tracing ESPHome's update-all flow and how device availability is checked; done means offline devices are detected before compilation and skipped during both individual updates and update-all.

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