ArduinoOTA retrieves incorrect IP for TCP transfer

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#### Platform

- Hardware: ESP-8266EX
- Core Version: 3.30002.0
- Development Env: Platformio
- Operating System: Windows

### Settings in IDE

- Module: Wemos D1 mini

### Problem Description

When trying to use OTA updates via internet [this call](https://github.com/esp8266/Arduino/blob/3027acaf11db93e877fca943eb815216d0507744/libraries/ArduinoOTA/ArduinoOTA.cpp#L178) retrieves a wrong, local IP.
The UDP communication works just fine but because of the wrong IP the TCP connection (pushing the actual firmware/payload) fails:

```
10:57:53 [INFO]: Sending invitation to: x.x.x.x
10:58:03 [ERROR]: No Answer
```

Network setup it is: Internet -> Router A -> Router B (in Acces Point mode) -> ESP. The call above yields the local IP address of Router A instead of the correct remote one.

I thought I could use the `--host_ip` argument to set the correct IP but it tries to bind the socket to it which fails. And the cpp side does not use this supplied address, it relies on the remote address of the UDP connection.

So I've added some code to `espota.py` to NOT bind to the to `localAddr` but to [`INADDR_ANY`](https://docs.python.org/3/library/socket.html#socket-families)
```python
server_address = ("", localPort)
```
and append the correct IP localAddr with the message:
```python
message = '%d %d %d %s\n%s\n' % (command, localPort, content_size, file_md5, localAddr)
```

and to read it on the cpp side:
```cpp
String ipstring = readStringUntil('\n');
_ota_ip2.fromString(ipstring);
```

and then I use this for the TCP connection:
```cpp
if (!client.connect(_ota_ip2, _ota_port)) {
```

With this now the OTA update works when explicitly setting the IP, e.g. like this:
```
python espota.py --ip=ESP_IP --host_ip=HOST_IP --host_port=HOST_PORT --file=firmware.bin --debug --progress
```

I wonder if this is due to the network setup (two routers, secondary one set to Access Point mode) or why the address resolution does not work even though communication works just fine.