Can't see first message in DMs between two instances

### Steps to reproduce

1. Where are you starting? What can you see? I am logged into two accounts, each on a different matrix instance,
2. I send a DM from one account to the other
3. I join the chat on the receiving account
4. I can't see the first message that was sent
5. Happens in both encrypted and unencrypted rooms

encrypted:


unencrypted:


### Outcome

#### What did you expect?

I expect to be able to see the message

#### What happened instead?

I can't see it

### Operating system

Ubuntu

### Browser information

Firefox 118, chromium 118 (snap)

### URL for webapp

app.element.io

### Application version

Element version: 1.11.46 Olm version: 3.2.14

### Homeserver

matrix.org, lfv.lt, also tried a few others

### Will you send logs?

Yes