Dendrite never listens on -https-bind-address :443 -http-bind-address :80, never fails either

*This issue was originally created by [**@paigeadelethompson**](https://github.com/paigeadelethompson) at .*

When these options are specified, there should be an expectation that this condition is reached:

```
time="2024-09-28T13:00:36.332861661Z" level=info msg="Starting external listener on :80"
time="2024-09-28T13:00:36.333589366Z" level=info msg="Starting external listener on :443"
```

if not then it should be fatal, and it shouldn't be doing anything else.

Start by tracing how -https-bind-address and -http-bind-address are parsed and how the external listeners are started. Reproduce with :443 and :80, then verify that both listeners start as logged or that startup fails fatally instead of continuing.

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