Customize options.h for ABI consistency

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### Issue

abseil-cpp is used downstream by different packages, some of which build in C++17 mode, but others in C++14 or C++11 mode.

By default, the Abseil library has a different ABI depending on the C++ language version. However, it also offers a mechanism to solve this issue:
https://github.com/abseil/abseil-cpp/blob/37c5c2e5cc51db1bfb4a5d2f2c5494a394d80e56/absl/base/options.h#L15-L51

Quoting from this file:
```c++
// Diamond dependency problems can be avoided if all packages utilize the same
// exact version of Abseil. Building from source code with the same compilation
// parameters is the easiest way to avoid such dependency problems. However, for
// package managers who cannot control such compilation parameters, we are
// providing the file to allow you to inject ABI (Application Binary Interface)
// stability across builds. Settings options in this file will neither change
// API nor ABI, providing a stable copy of Abseil between packages.
```

Of course, once all transitively dependent packages are compiled in C++17 mode it becomes moot.

(see comment in Arrow PR for moving to C++17: https://github.com/apache/arrow/pull/13991#issuecomment-1233151550)

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