ccl/sqlproxyccl: TestCancelQuery failed

ccl/sqlproxyccl.TestCancelQuery [failed](https://mesolite.cluster.engflow.com/invocations/default/326dd6fa-4406-4658-a48f-a1fd38aed689?testReportRun=1&testReportShard=7&testReportAttempt=1#targets-Ly9wa2cvY2NsL3NxbHByb3h5Y2NsOnNxbHByb3h5Y2NsX3Rlc3Q=) on release-25.4 @ [261bbe6279ac7f2f646b7dad69b7b991ad16769e](https://github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/commits/261bbe6279ac7f2f646b7dad69b7b991ad16769e):

```
pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/conn_migration.go:49 +0x31
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl.(*forwarder).TransferConnection()
pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/conn_migration.go:149 +0x124
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/balancer.(*Balancer).processQueue.func1.1()
pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/balancer/balancer.go:374 +0x27b
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/util/stop.(*Stopper).RunAsyncTaskEx.func1()
pkg/util/stop/stopper.go:447 +0x115
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/util/stop.(*Stopper).RunAsyncTaskEx.gowrap1()
pkg/util/stop/stopper.go:448 +0x4f

Previous write at 0x000011ece678 by goroutine 4932:
reflect.typedmemmove()
GOROOT/src/runtime/mbarrier.go:225 +0x0
reflect.Value.Set()
GOROOT/src/reflect/value.go:2321 +0x184
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/testutils.TestingHook.func1()
pkg/testutils/hook.go:18 +0x70
runtime.deferreturn()
GOROOT/src/runtime/panic.go:611 +0x5d
testing.tRunner()
GOROOT/src/testing/testing.go:1690 +0x226
testing.(*T).Run.gowrap1()
GOROOT/src/testing/testing.go:1743 +0x44

Goroutine 4935 (running) created at:
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/util/stop.(*Stopper).RunAsyncTaskEx()
pkg/util/stop/stopper.go:445 +0x24e
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/util/stop.(*Stopper).RunAsyncTask()
pkg/util/stop/stopper.go:368 +0x1ef
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/balancer.(*Balancer).processQueue.func1()
pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/balancer/balancer.go:366 +0xc0
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/balancer.(*Balancer).processQueue()
pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/balancer/balancer.go:389 +0xa5
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/balancer.(*Balancer).processQueue-fm()
:1 +0x47
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/util/stop.(*Stopper).RunAsyncTaskEx.func1()
pkg/util/stop/stopper.go:447 +0x115
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/util/stop.(*Stopper).RunAsyncTaskEx.gowrap1()
pkg/util/stop/stopper.go:448 +0x4f

Goroutine 4932 (finished) created at:
testing.(*T).Run()
GOROOT/src/testing/testing.go:1743 +0x825
github.com/cockroachdb/cockroach/pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl.TestCancelQuery()
pkg/ccl/sqlproxyccl/proxy_handler_test.go:1729 +0x1cfe
testing.tRunner()
GOROOT/src/testing/testing.go:1690 +0x226
testing.(*T).Run.gowrap1()
GOROOT/src/testing/testing.go:1743 +0x44
==================
```

Parameters:
- attempt=1
- race=true
- run=1
- shard=7
Help

See also: [How To Investigate a Go Test Failure \(internal\)](https://cockroachlabs.atlassian.net/l/c/HgfXfJgM)

Same failure on other branches

- #169046 ccl/sqlproxyccl: TestCancelQuery failed [C-test-failure O-robot T-cloud-platform branch-release-25.2.18-rc release-blocker]
- #167577 ccl/sqlproxyccl: TestCancelQuery failed [C-test-failure O-robot T-cloud-platform branch-release-24.3]
- #166665 ccl/sqlproxyccl: TestCancelQuery failed [C-test-failure O-robot T-cloud-platform branch-release-24.3.30-rc]
- #165202 ccl/sqlproxyccl: TestCancelQuery failed [C-test-failure O-robot T-cloud-platform branch-release-26.1]
- #165007 ccl/sqlproxyccl: TestCancelQuery failed [C-test-failure O-robot T-cloud-platform branch-release-24.3.29-rc]

/cc @cockroachdb/sqlproxy-prs

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Jira issue: CRDB-63736