For row-level TTL, provide a means to keep the last N days of data and, beyond that, retain the last M rows

Customer would like to have a TTL which is flexible enough to perform joins if necessary and only delete rows if they are > 90 days old and then only if there are > 20 rows matching the criteria.

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Jira issue: CRDB-37303