Reload Follow Status

### Problem I have

I'm mildly frustrated when I follow somebody and want to add them in a list right afterwards. The button to add them to a list is not listed as the follow is still pending. This happens also on accounts that have it set to automatically accept. I have to manual reload the page.

### Solution I'd like

We do not have any web sockets to subscribe to and have to pull the status which might not be super sleek, but i still think giving it three tries to fetch the new status in increments of a second is sensible, afterwards we just give up.

For accounts with manual approval we do not do that.

### Alternatives considered

I currently do not have an account on a instance running mastodon so I am unable to check how things are there. Maybe you could also be just really optimistic about the follow but that would raise more problems than fixing.

### Other

_No response_