Santa maybe revealed to the santee accidentally?

This is probably an edgecase, nevertheless, consider this:

- You login to Della
- See that the Santee info is available.
- Click on `Click here to check their Gift preferences and address` to see their details
- Oops, not there. Now want to send a sneaky message to santee.
- Click on "Message ``

oops, you've revealed yourself. Yes, I understand sneaky message button is at the bottom but you really don't notice that.

Suggestions:

- Switch locations of the 2 buttons
- Remove the `message user` option if the logged in person is the Santa for the santee
- Put an alert saying "you're messaging santa as yourself, are you sure?" (on those lines)

Reproduce the flow described: log in to Della as the Santa, open the Santee's gift preferences and address, then select the message option. Review the relevant UI entry point and choose an approved safeguard from the suggestions; done means the Santa cannot accidentally reveal their identity when messaging the Santee.

Written by the indexing model from the issue text.