[Bug] Shall we resolve the memory forget release or double release issue by a framework?

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### Describe the bug

During these day, we found a bundle of memory related issue, some are memory leak, some are double release, these make us confusing.

And we have a discussion between our teammate, an idea is that we should decouple rpc thread and memory release thread by a blocking queue, leverage this queue, let's say it `releaseEventQueue`, rpc threads could be memory release event producer, and memory release thread poll the `releaseEventQueue` and release the memory, by this, we can make sure release memory within one thread, double release behavior can be detected and avoid.

Any thoughts?

### Affects Version(s)

master

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### Are you willing to submit PR?

- [ ] Yes I am willing to submit a PR!

Start by tracing the RPC-thread memory release paths described in the issue and identifying where memory leaks or double releases occur. Review whether a releaseEventQueue and dedicated memory-release thread would cover those paths, then define tests or observable checks for single, complete release; the issue names no files or existing tests.

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