[FEATURE] Quick graceful upgrading for shuffle-server cluster

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- [X] I have searched in the [issues](https://github.com/apache/incubator-uniffle/issues?q=is%3Aissue) and found no similar issues.

### Describe the feature

After #1538 and #1373 is finished, we could implement the graceful quick upgrading for shuffle-server cluster.

### Motivation

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### Describe the solution

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### Additional context

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### Are you willing to submit PR?

- [ ] Yes I am willing to submit a PR!

Review issues #1538 and #1373 first, since this feature is explicitly dependent on them. Then trace the shuffle-server cluster upgrade entry points and define what “graceful quick upgrading” should do and how completion will be verified; the issue currently names no files, tests, or detailed solution.

Written by the indexing model from the issue text.