Allow for disabling Heapdumps via netbeans.exe

### Description

Currently (https://github.com/apache/netbeans/blob/915296a97f2327153d3ad87c9fef2d0bc8586fbb/platform/o.n.bootstrap/launcher/unix/nbexec#L219)
the java args ALWAYS contain the HeapDump option at the end

`jargs="$jargs -XX:+HeapDumpOnOutOfMemoryError" `

It would be great to disable this by setting
`-XX:-HeapDumpOnOutOfMemoryError` in the options file.

Setting ` -J-XX:HeapDumpPath=NUL` in the options may work, but this behaviour does not seem consistent and disabling HeapDumps alltogether would be great.

### Use case/motivation

I want to be able to disable heapdumps, we use the Netbeans Platform for a custom product. Our HeapDumps coulde be VERY Large and we don't want them to be created altogether.

### Related issues

_No response_

### Are you willing to submit a pull request?

No

Start with platform/o.n.bootstrap/launcher/unix/nbexec around line 219 and inspect how netbeans.exe and the options file pass Java arguments. Verify that -XX:-HeapDumpOnOutOfMemoryError can override the default setting, and test that launching with this option no longer enables heap dumps.

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