[SUREFIRE-1743] Allow custom listeners to request stop

**[Andrew Neeson](https://issues.apache.org/jira/secure/ViewProfile.jspa?name=andyrokit)** opened **[SUREFIRE-1743](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SUREFIRE-1743?redirect=false)** and commented

Currently Surefire gives you the ability to [add custom listeners and reporters](https://maven.apache.org/surefire/maven-surefire-plugin/examples/junit.html#Using_Custom_Listeners_and_Reporters).  However, those listeners do not have a hook on the Notifier which created them.

I would like to be able to create listeners which have the ability to request that the test run is stopped (RunNotifier.pleaseStop) under specific conditions.  These conditions are not currently covered by existing mechanisms such as [skipAfterFailure](https://maven.apache.org/surefire/maven-surefire-plugin/examples/skip-after-failure.html).

Note:  I originally considered this as [a change to Cucumber JVM](https://github.com/cucumber/cucumber-jvm/issues/1854), but I realise that it's more generic than that (hence this ticket).

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**Issue Links:**
- [SUREFIRE-1710](https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/SUREFIRE-1710) skipAfterFailureCount in JUnit5 provider
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Start by tracing how custom listeners and reporters are created and how the JUnit RunNotifier is made available to them. Compare the requested stop behavior with the existing skipAfterFailure mechanism and the linked JUnit 5 provider work. Done means a custom listener can request that the test run stops under its own conditions.

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