[FEATURE] choose one group when using group share level

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### Describe the feature

When a user has several groups in ugi, user can choose a group needed when using group share level.

### Motivation

Group level is more efficient than user level, with less time of resource apply and less parameters to optimize. For user, engines for different groups mean different queues and different resources. Now the group is chosen automatically by header group in ugi, which may not flexible for user, as well as the platform in upper level cannot provide a better suggestion for user.

### Describe the solution

em...may be I can solve this problem by using parameters transferred by jdbc connection

### Additional context

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### Are you willing to submit PR?

- [X] Yes I am willing to submit a PR!

No files or tests are named. Start by tracing group-share-level handling, including UGI/header-based group selection and JDBC connection parameters. Done means a user with several UGI groups can explicitly choose the required group and the selected group affects engine sharing, queues, and resources.

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