[Bug] Throw the exception to notify FlinkEngine config `table.dml-sync` is not equal to the parameter runAsync

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### Describe the bug

Flink table uses `table.dml-sync`[1] to control whether wait the execution finish. However, Kyuubi use its own parameter to control the behaviour. I think it's neccesary to keep the behaviour unified and throw the exception to notify the users.

[1] https://nightlies.apache.org/flink/flink-docs-master/docs/dev/table/config/#table-dml-sync

### Affects Version(s)

master

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