[SUPPORT] After upgrading hudi 0.14.1, use Spark SQL merge into to update the matched_action, the case of the column name and the expression name does not match, resulting in an exception.

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**Describe the problem you faced**

Hello team, after **upgrading **from** hudi0.13.1** to **hudi0.14.1**, I found that a large number of merge into tasks failed. After a simple test, it is concluded that the case of column name and expression name is inconsistent in the `merge into ... WHEN MATCHED THEN UPDATE SET ` operation.
[Not sure if it has anything to do with this new feature](https://github.com/apache/hudi/pull/9083/)

**To Reproduce**

Steps to reproduce the behavior:

1. Create test tables and data
```sql
create table merge_source (
id int, name string, price double
) using hudi
tblproperties
(primaryKey = 'id');
insert into merge_source values (1, "old_a1", 22.22), (2, "new_a2", 33.33), (3, "new_a3", 44.44);



create table hudi_cow_tbl_v14 (
id INT,
name STRING,
price DOUBLE
) USING hudi
tblproperties
(primaryKey = 'id');
insert into hudi_cow_tbl_v14 values (1, "oldid1", 100.00), (2, "oldid2", 200.00);

```
2. Execute a merge statement
```sql
merge into hudi_cow_tbl_v14 as target
using merge_source as source
on target.id = source.id
when matched then update set ID=source.ID, name=source.name
```


3. Results of using arthars debug watch methods
```properties
method=org.apache.spark.sql.hudi.analysis.HoodieSpark32PlusResolveReferences.resolveMergeExprOrFail location=AtExceptionExit
ts=2024-01-24 15:06:18; [cost=1.207048ms] result=@ArrayList[
@Object[][
@UnresolvedAttribute['ID],
@Project[Project
+- SubqueryAlias target
+- SubqueryAlias spark_catalog.test.hudi_cow_tbl_v14
+- Relation test.hudi_cow_tbl_v14[
_hoodie_commit_time#608,_hoodie_commit_seqno#609,
_hoodie_record_key#610,_hoodie_partition_path#611,
_hoodie_file_name#612,id#613,name#614,price#615]
BaseFileOnlyRelation(org.apache.spark.sql.SQLContext@22decfa2,HoodieTableMetaClient
{basePath='hdfs://xx/user/hive/warehouse/test.db/hudi_cow_tbl_v14',
metaPath='hdfs://xx/user/hive/warehouse/test.db/hudi_cow_tbl_v14/.hoodie',
tableType=COPY_ON_WRITE},
Map(hoodie.embed.timeline.server -> true,
hoodie.datasource.hive_sync.mode -> hms,
hoodie.insert.shuffle.parallelism -> 20,
hoodie.datasource.hive_sync.support_timestamp -> true,
hoodie.schema.on.read.enable -> true,
path -> hdfs://xxx/user/hive/warehouse/test.db/hudi_cow_tbl_v14,
hoodie.filesystem.view.type -> EMBEDDED_KV_STORE,
hoodie.datasource.hive_sync.metastore.uris -> thrift://xxx,
hoodie.delete.shuffle.parallelism -> 20,
hoodie.datasource.query.type -> snapshot,
hoodie.datasource.write.schema.allow.auto.evolution.column.drop -> true,
hoodie.compact.inline -> false,
hoodie.datasource.write.reconcile.schema -> true,
hoodie.upsert.shuffle.parallelism -> 20,
hoodie.query.as.ro.table -> false,
hoodie.bulkinsert.shuffle.parallelism -> 20)
,None,List(),None)
],
],
@HoodieSpark32PlusResolveReferences[
MatchMergeIntoTable$module=@MatchMergeIntoTable$[org.apache.spark.sql.hudi.analysis.HoodieSpark32PlusResolveReferences$MatchMergeIntoTable$@41623694],
spark=@SparkSession[org.apache.spark.sql.SparkSession@b1e63b5],
sparkAdapter=@Spark3_3Adapter[org.apache.spark.sql.adapter.Spark3_3Adapter@46d83ec4],
bitmap$0=@Boolean[true],
ruleId=null,
ruleName=@String[org.apache.spark.sql.hudi.analysis.HoodieSpark32PlusResolveReferences],
org$apache$spark$internal$Logging$$log_=null,
bitmap$0=@Boolean[false],
],
null,
]
```

**Expected behavior**

A clear and concise description of what you expected to happen.

**Environment Description**

- Hudi version : 0.14.1
- Spark version : 3.3.2
- Hive version : 3.1.2
- Hadoop version : 3.3.3
- Storage (HDFS/S3/GCS..) : HDFS
- Running on Docker? (yes/no) : no

**Additional context**

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**Stacktrace**

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