gluten spill disk is much larger than spark spill

### Backend

VL (Velox)

### Bug description

During the process of running SQL, I found that the spill disk and spill memory of gluten are often much larger than those of spark, which leads to the execution time of gluten much longer than those of spark.

### Gluten version

Gluten-1.3

### Spark version

Spark-3.2.x

### Spark configurations

_No response_

### System information

_No response_

### Relevant logs

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