[CORE] Gluten should honor the spark configs as much as possible

### Description

During the analysis of spill in issue #8025, we noted some issues are common between Gluten and Vanilla spark, like the spill read/write buffer size. Some configuration are even not documented in Spark like spark.unsafe.sorter.spill.reader.buffer.size.

Furthermore, I noted Gluten doesn't have a list of honored spark configurations. We should create such a list in documents. @zhouyuan