[VL] Can not load native library using the --jars

### Backend

VL (Velox)

### Bug description

when using `--conf spark.gluten.loadLibFromJar=true` to load native libraries from the jar, you need to set the parameters
` --conf spark.driver.extraClassPath=${GLUTEN_JAR}:${JNI_JAR} ` and `--conf spark.executor.extraClassPath=${GLUTEN_JAR}:${JNI_JAR} ` to add the ${JNI_JAR} to the extraClassPath. So, each node should have the path ${JIN_JAR}.

if using `--jars ${JNI_PATH}` it can cause error in native library loading;

the code throw an exception is:
https://github.com/apache/incubator-gluten/blob/main/gluten-core/src/main/java/org/apache/gluten/vectorized/JniLibLoader.java#L214

the reason for not found the native library may be that, in https://github.com/apache/incubator-gluten/blob/main/gluten-core/src/main/java/org/apache/gluten/vectorized/JniLibLoader.java#L212, the class Loader is the ` sun.misc.Launcher$AppClassLoader` but using `--jars ` the loader is the loader in spark `MutableURLClassLoader`

Start with gluten-core/src/main/java/org/apache/gluten/vectorized/JniLibLoader.java around lines 212-214 and compare the class loader used with --jars against the extraClassPath setup described in the issue. Reproduce native library loading with --jars; done means the library loads without the reported exception.

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