[VL] OOM test in CI fails sometimes

### Backend

VL (Velox)

### Bug description

[Expected behavior] and [actual behavior].

### Spark version

None

### Spark configurations

_No response_

### System information

_No response_

### Relevant logs

```bash
Running query q23a with coordinate ISOLATION -> OFF, OFFHEAP_SIZE -> 2g, FLUSH_MODE -> DISABLED (iteration 0)...
Executing SQL query from resource path /tpcds-queries/q23a.sql...
E20240705 12:32:59.361933 15106 Exceptions.h:67] Line: /__w/incubator-gluten/incubator-gluten/ep/build-velox/build/velox_ep/velox/exec/Driver.cpp:370, Function:next, Expression: stop == StopReason::kBlock || stop == StopReason::kAtEnd || stop == StopReason::kAlreadyTerminated || stop == StopReason::kTerminate , Source: RUNTIME, ErrorCode: INVALID_STATE
24/07/05 12:32:59 ERROR TaskResources: Task 139 failed by error:
org.apache.gluten.exception.GlutenException: org.apache.gluten.exception.GlutenException: Error during calling Java code from native code: org.apache.gluten.exception.GlutenException: org.apache.gluten.exception.GlutenException: Exception: VeloxRuntimeError
Error Source: RUNTIME
Error Code: INVALID_STATE
Retriable: False
Expression: stop == StopReason::kBlock || stop == StopReason::kAtEnd || stop == StopReason::kAlreadyTerminated || stop == StopReason::kTerminate
Function: next
File: /__w/incubator-gluten/incubator-gluten/ep/build-velox/build/velox_ep/velox/exec/Driver.cpp
Line: 370
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at org.apache.gluten.vectorized.GeneralOutIterator.hasNext(GeneralOutIterator.java:39)
at scala.collection.convert.Wrappers$JIteratorWrapper.hasNext(Wrappers.scala:45)
at org.apache.gluten.utils.iterator.IteratorsV1$InvocationFlowProtection.hasNext(IteratorsV1.scala:159)
at org.apache.gluten.utils.iterator.IteratorsV1$IteratorCompleter.hasNext(IteratorsV1.scala:71)
at org.apache.gluten.utils.iterator.IteratorsV1$PayloadCloser.hasNext(IteratorsV1.scala:37)
at org.apache.gluten.utils.iterator.IteratorsV1$LifeTimeAccumulator.hasNext(IteratorsV1.scala:100)
at org.apache.spark.InterruptibleIterator.hasNext(InterruptibleIterator.scala:37)
at org.apache.gluten.utils.iterator.IteratorsV1$ReadTimeAccumulator.hasNext(IteratorsV1.scala:127)
at scala.collection.Iterator$$anon$10.hasNext(Iterator.scala:460)
at scala.collection.convert.Wrappers$IteratorWrapper.hasNext(Wrappers.scala:32)
at org.apache.gluten.vectorized.GeneralInIterator.hasNext(GeneralInIterator.java:31)
at org.apache.gluten.vectorized.ColumnarBatchOutIterator.nativeHasNext(Native Method)
at org.apache.gluten.vectorized.ColumnarBatchOutIterator.hasNextInternal(ColumnarBatchOutIterator.java:61)
at org.apache.gluten.vectorized.GeneralOutIterator.hasNext(GeneralOutIterator.java:37)
at scala.collection.convert.Wrappers$JIteratorWrapper.hasNext(Wrappers.scala:45)
at org.apache.gluten.utils.iterator.IteratorsV1$ReadTimeAccumulator.hasNext(IteratorsV1.scala:127)
at org.apache.gluten.utils.iterator.IteratorsV1$PayloadCloser.hasNext(IteratorsV1.scala:37)
at org.apache.gluten.utils.iterator.IteratorsV1$IteratorCompleter.hasNext(IteratorsV1.scala:71)
at scala.collection.Iterator$$anon$10.hasNext(Iterator.scala:460)
at scala.collection.Iterator$$anon$10.hasNext(Iterator.scala:460)
at org.apache.spark.shuffle.ColumnarShuffleWriter.internalWrite(ColumnarShuffleWriter.scala:121)
at org.apache.spark.shuffle.ColumnarShuffleWriter.write(ColumnarShuffleWriter.scala:231)
at org.apache.spark.shuffle.ShuffleWriteProcessor.write(ShuffleWriteProcessor.scala:59)
at org.apache.spark.scheduler.ShuffleMapTask.runTask(ShuffleMapTask.scala:99)
at org.apache.spark.scheduler.ShuffleMapTask.runTask(ShuffleMapTask.scala:52)
at org.apache.spark.scheduler.Task.run(Task.scala:131)
at org.apache.spark.executor.Executor$TaskRunner.$anonfun$run$3(Executor.scala:506)
at org.apache.spark.util.Utils$.tryWithSafeFinally(Utils.scala:1491)
at org.apache.spark.executor.Executor$TaskRunner.run(Executor.scala:509)
at java.util.concurrent.ThreadPoolExecutor.runWorker(ThreadPoolExecutor.java:1149)
at java.util.concurrent.ThreadPoolExecutor$Worker.run(ThreadPoolExecutor.java:624)
at java.lang.Thread.run(Thread.java:750)
```

Start by reproducing the CI OOM test for q23a and trace the failure at velox/exec/Driver.cpp:370 through ColumnarShuffleWriter. Confirm the intermittent cause and make the test pass reliably in CI; done means repeated runs no longer hit the INVALID_STATE failure.

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