[Bug] Directory of type RegistryDirectory already destroyed for service

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### Apache Dubbo Component

Java SDK (apache/dubbo)

### Dubbo Version

openjdk: 1.8 dubbo: 3.2.0

### Steps to reproduce this issue

Because Dubbo for Spring Boot starts to destroy itself immediately after receiving the ContextClosedEvent, while the Spring Boot scheduled task (ThreadPoolTaskScheduler) is destroyed later during the DisposableBean.destroy() phase, the destruction order becomes inconsistent.

As a result, Dubbo is destroyed before the scheduled tasks are stopped. If those tasks continue to invoke Dubbo remote services during this period, they will throw the following error:

```
org.apache.dubbo.rpc.RpcException: Directory of type RegistryDirectory already destroyed for service
```

### What you expected to happen

Support graceful shutdown

### Anything else

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### Are you willing to submit a pull request to fix on your own?

- [ ] Yes I am willing to submit a pull request on my own!

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