Invocation may broke when provider offline

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## Describe the proposal
When the provider is offline, the registry will push the offline notification to the consumer, and the consumer will stop all in-transit calls. This affects the overall request success rate.
Move the destroy actions of invoker into a seperate thread, wait unit all of the request end, then destroy.

Start by tracing how the registry's provider-offline notification reaches the consumer and where invoker destruction stops in-transit calls. Define the lifecycle behavior so existing requests finish before destruction, then verify that offline notifications no longer reduce request success through premature cancellation.

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