[Feature] 优化 spark-doris-connector jar 大小

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### Description

建议优化一下spark-doris-connector jar 大小，当前jar 中包含了很多spark jars目录已经存在jar。
还包含calcite jar 是否必要？

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Start by inspecting the spark-doris-connector JAR contents and identifying which Spark JARs and Calcite JARs are bundled. Review the connector's dependency and packaging configuration to determine which dependencies are already provided by Spark and whether Calcite is required. Done means producing a smaller connector JAR without unnecessary duplicate dependencies and verifying that it still works with its supported Spark environment.

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