Destructure proto hooks for the Parquet source and sink

### Scope

| file | type |
|---|---|
| `datasource-parquet/src/source.rs` | `ParquetSource` |
| `datasource-parquet/src/sink.rs` | `ParquetSink` |

4 hooks (2 encoders, 2 decoders).

### Field drop found in this group

**`ParquetSource::metadata_size_hint` is not serialized.** `ParquetScanExecNode` carries `base_conf`, `predicate` and `parquet_options` only, and the hint is not part of `TableParquetOptions` either, so a source configured with the public `with_metadata_size_hint` loses its footer prefetch size on round-trip.

Several other `ParquetSource` fields are unmentioned by the encoder and need an explicit decision: `parquet_file_reader_factory` and `encryption_factory` cannot be serialized and are rebuilt from the decode context (that is already documented on `try_from_proto` -- it should become a `_` binding with the same note), while `reverse_row_groups` and `sort_order_for_reorder` need checking against how they are set.

### Why

Serde hooks that read state through getters or `self.field` make an added field invisible to serialization: nothing breaks at compile time, the field simply stops round-tripping, and `Debug`-comparing round-trip tests do not notice. `HashJoinExec::fetch` was lost exactly this way (#24165), and #24609 is a second live instance found by applying the convention to one file.

#24164 established the fix -- exhaustive destructuring in both directions -- and applied it to the join plans. The `physical-plan` plan nodes are done. `physical-expr` and the `datasource*` crates were never converted.

### What to do

For each hook in scope:

1. In `try_to_proto`, start with an exhaustive `let Self {{ .. }}` -- **no `..` rest pattern**. Fields that are genuinely not serialized bind to `_` with a short comment saying why (derived at construction, runtime state, recomputed on decode, carried by a parent message).
2. In `try_from_proto`, destructure the prost-generated node struct the same way, so adding a field to `datafusion.proto` is a compile error in every decoder.
3. If the destructure turns up a field that *should* round-trip but has no wire representation, add it to the message and cover it with a test that fails without the fix.

### Definition of done

- [ ] Every field of the plan/expression struct is either serialized or bound to `_` with a reason.
- [ ] Every field of the prost node is destructured in the decoder.
- [ ] Any newly serialized field has a round-trip test, verified to fail before the fix.

- Part of #24612.