Fauxton shows “This database failed to load” after pod restarts

**Describe the bug**

After restarting a pod, the node fails to join the cluster properly, and we're getting an error on Fauxton, that displays 'this database failed to load' on some databases. when refreshing the browser, a different db comes online and a different db displays 'this database failed to load'. only after running a curl request with 'finish_cluster' the error stops.

**Version of Helm and Kubernetes**: Helm: 3.5.4, Kubernetes: 1.19

**What happened**: After restarting a pod, the node fails to join the cluster properly, and only after running:

curl -X POST http://$adminUser:$adminPassword@:5984/_cluster_setup -H "Accept: application/json" -H "Content-Type: application/json" -d '{"action": "finish_cluster"}'
The pod will join back to the cluster.

**What you expected to happen**: After restart of the pod, the node automatically joins the cluster.

**How to reproduce it** (as minimally and precisely as possible): restart 1 pod in the cluster.

**Anything else we need to know**:

Adding image from Fauxton regarding this database failed to load:

Also added the values.yaml:

clusterSize: 3

allowAdminParty: false

createAdminSecret: false

adminUsername: admin
networkPolicy:
enabled: true

serviceAccount:
enabled: true
create: true
persistentVolume:
enabled: true
accessModes:
- ReadWriteOnce
size: 10Gi
storageClass: "ssd-couchdb"

image:
repository:
tag: latest
pullPolicy: Always

searchImage:
repository: kocolosk/couchdb-search
tag: 0.2.0
pullPolicy: IfNotPresent

enableSearch: false

initImage:
repository: busybox
tag: latest
pullPolicy: Always

podManagementPolicy: Parallel

affinity: {}

annotations: {}

tolerations: []

service:
# annotations:
enabled: true
type: LoadBalancer
externalPort: 5984
sidecarsPort: 8080
LoadBalancerIP:

ingress:
enabled: false
hosts:
- chart-example.local
path: /
annotations: []
tls:
resources:
{}

erlangFlags:
name: couchdb
setcookie: monster

couchdbConfig:
chttpd:
bind_address: any
require_valid_user: false

dns:
clusterDomainSuffix: cluster.local
livenessProbe:
enabled: true
failureThreshold: 3
initialDelaySeconds: 0
periodSeconds: 10
successThreshold: 1
timeoutSeconds: 1
readinessProbe:
enabled: true
failureThreshold: 3
initialDelaySeconds: 0
periodSeconds: 10
successThreshold: 1
timeoutSeconds: 1

sidecars:
image: ""
imagePullPolicy: Always